A total f***ing life-ninja

harmonicasmallDitching stuff, beating debt, getting a life.

That’s the sub-heading I chose for my little blog when I set it up last year. It was these three areas where my life was falling woefully short: I was up to my eyes in consumer debt, drowning under crap and had little time, energy or money to get out of the house, meet people and have fun.

Now my piles of rubbish have subsided and my debts are a third of the size they were a few years back.

But there’s one area I’ve been neglecting: getting a life.

As a result, my life (and by extension, this blog) has been pretty po-faced and serious. Sitting at home poring over the latest zero percent credit card offers has been really important in busting my debt pile, but my god it’s been dull.

I’ve been reining in my spending for longer than I remember, which has put a serious dent in my social life. Restaurant trips, fitness classes, hobbies and nights out drinking all took a hammering.

Now things are going to change.

I’ve just finished a great little book called Level Up Your Life by Steve Kamb. He describes how he realised he was living vicariously through characters in action movies and computer games rather than getting out there and experiencing things for himself.

So he started his own ‘Epic Quest of Awesome’ by hiking the Inca Trail, living like James Bond for a weekend in Monte Carlo, and all sorts of other great things.

His passion for grabbing life by the balls was infectious.

As a self-confessed nerd, Kamb has peppered his book with references to action films and video games. He talks about harnessing the principles which make computer games so addictive (small challenges, frequent rewards) and using them to improve your life. This can push you to do things you otherwise wouldn’t, like exercising or mastering a new skill.

And it’s not just about doing awesome ‘bucket list’-style things.

I’ve now created my own ‘Epic Quest of Awesome’, with loads of challenges in areas like hobbies, travel, having fun, finance, learning and fitness.

Some examples (complete with my own cheesy titles):

WALKING DEAD: Take part in a real-life zombie adventure

I’ve enlisted my wife and a friend to join me on a 5k run with a twist in October, the twist being you’re chased by zombies. Most other friends recoiled in horror at the idea. All I can say is, they will be the first to the wall come the zombie apocalypse.

SHE’S ELECTRIC: Learn how to change light switches and change at least two

This is something I’d always been too afraid to do myself, for fear of it being ‘game over’. But a friend inspired me, I did lots of research into how to carry out the work safely and now I’ve updated three of our light switches and counting.

THE MUSICIAN: Play the harmonica in a band

I’ve bought a cheap harmonica and instruction book off t’internet and I’ve started teaching myself. At the minute, I well and truly suck (pun intended).

I’ve also been trying to say yes to new opportunities as often as I can, even if they are daunting.

For now, I’ve decided my challenges can’t break the bank or involve buying a lot of stuff, as it’d throw all my other hard work off-course. But that still leaves me with loads of other ways to have fun, meet new people and learn new skills.

As I keep enthusiastically proclaiming to my long-suffering wife this week, I’m going to be a total fucking life-ninja!

5 thoughts on “A total f***ing life-ninja

  1. Mary says:

    Thanks for giving me something to look forward to when my debt clears through. I will definitely have to get the book now or two for my nephew who’s into gaming and manga now. I love the zombie run! Please post some pics when you complete the run! I’m planning the Chardonnay Run this fall. A glass of wine at the end? Who could resist that? Thanks for the lovely post.

  2. Denise says:

    I am so pleased to find this article. I have totally turned my life around in so many ways in the last five years. I paid off a mountain of debt, including using a windfall to get rid of my mortgage (yay yay to luck on that one. Sodding hard work on the rest.). I left an emotionally abusive marriage and then – got stuck entirely, just treading water. I found Joshua Becker’s site, then The Minimalists. I have got rid of about 60% of the bits and bobs my husband allowed me to have when I left (it was “the price of doing business” to get the fuck away from him, so no regrets there) and I have more to donate or discard now, which I am working on.

    I am struggling with a few things. I have decided to (hate the phrase, but it is apposite) ‘right-size’ my living space by selling my four bed house with large garden and move closer to work into London into a two bed flat. That is fine, I am a bit (a lot) scared but have faith that it’s the right thing to do. But then what? What I predominantly struggle with is the issue of what to do with my life and time after doing all this minimising. It seems like minimalism bloggers like The Minimalists had passions they weren’t pursuing: I have no clue what my passion(s) might be, nor how to find them. What if I just end up sitting in a smaller home with less stuff and a shorter commute? That’s still a worthwhile outcome, but it’s supposed to be an intermediate step to “an intentional life”.

    Intentionally what though???

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